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Smiling is better than CHOCOLATE

Smiling is better than Chocolate I said…

“What? Impossible” The response of my daughter to this statement.

But when it comes to our brain’s response, smiling wins out. It creates a powerful loop in that the brain recognizes as HAPPINESS and PLEASURE. This positive feedback loop reinforces feelings of JOY.

Even fake smiles trigger the same loop. So when you’re in traffic, frustrated, irritated, annoyed – try smiling. And hold it. (The yoga instructor in me wants you to add some diaphragmatic breaths too.)

Here’s a FB Live I did on it.

Namaste,
Sarah

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3 Tools to Cultivate JOY

As someone who has been depressed, I know the feeling of depression intimately. I also know that when it lifts – that depression is not my natural state. Joy is my natural state.

Copy of Copy of Copy of The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things. – Henry Ward Beecher

So I started to ask what can I do to support my own JOY? There is a ton of research around the topic of cultivating joy. I really enjoy the work of researcher Emma Seppala who wrote an article in Psychology Today about sharing your joy. I break down the article here:

VLOG – The Power of Sharing your JOY with others

The thing to add into your life to cultivate joy is to SHARE YOUR JOY WITH OTHERS. Here’s are three ways I do this:
1) Three Things and Hi/Lo at the family dinner table. Come together and share 3 things that happened throughout your day. Then one highpoint and then one lowpoint.
2) Gratitude Journal. At the end of your day, bullet point 3-5 things that happened during your day.
3) Share your positive experiences of your day with a trusted person.

Give it a shot.
Namaste, Sarah


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Choose JOY

Let’s climb in the ‘way-back machine’ ok? A long time ago I was dating this guy…and, he was a really negative person. Really half-empty. Everything he saw was the world being out to get him. He was constantly the victim of the world, his employers, his circumstances.

I felt like it was my responsibility to fix everything and make his world better. But it wasn’t my job.

Circumstances and people cannot create your joy…YOU create your joy.

Because here’s the cold, hard truth and here is what I told him in the end.

Joy is a choice…choose joy.

We were inherently different people, but what I saw was a world full of loving and smiling people. What he saw was a scary world full of dumb, annoying people. What I saw were simple pleasures and I hung out in the place of gratitude. What he saw was that everyone/thing was out to get/bother/annoy him and doing anything was an uphill effort.

What was the difference between us?

How we look at the world.

That’s it.

The world is like a piece of broccoli (lesson from a great article called “Be the Broccoli” that I can’t find to attribute.) You can look at a piece of broccoli and think it looks delicious, nutritious, and wonderful. OR you can look at it and think it looks disgusting. In the end…the piece of broccoli itself doesn’t change. It’s still just a piece of broccoli. The difference is in your perception.

Joy is a choice. Ultimately, how you perceive the world is your choice.

And you can do some things that set the stage for more and more and more JOY. To cultivate joy. The more you practice these tools, the more you start fertilizing your garden with stuff that makes joy grow. For example – smile more, share your joyous moments with a trusted friend or family member, practice gratitude.

Choose Joy.
Namaste, S


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Joy is a Choice.

No really, Joy is a CHOICE.  How you look at things is up to you.  You can’t control the circumstances, but you sure can control how you react and feel about them.

When my kids were little, I’d envy the array of emotional storms that would pass over them within the course of an hour.  HAPPY, MAD, SAD, EXCITED, CONTENT…and on and on and on.  Like little thundershowers, the feelings would come and they would go.  To this day, they still don’t hold grudges, they don’t stay mad, they let the feelings come and then pass on through.

I heard a preacher once who said, “They’re just feelings – they come and they go.  Don’t get too locked down on them because then the feelings control you.”

It’s hard though isn’t it?  When someone hurts you, disappoints you, frustrates you, angers you…to just, feel the pain – and let it go.

Somewhere along the way, instead of letting the feelings pass through, we started allowing the feelings to linger and turn into resentment.

Hm.

Here’s what I think about the sticky icky resentment – it’s not a feeling.  It’s a choice.  And when you choose resentment, you’re holding on to the ick.  You’re allowing the feeling to stick and fester.  And that ick isn’t good for your health.

Conversely, you could feel it – and let it pass through.

There’s a great story in Jon Muth’s “Zen Shorts” about an old monk who was treated very rudely by a woman on the road.  The rest of the journey his travelmate stews about how awfully the old monk was treated.  When he brings it up at the end of the day, he expresses his outrage, “That woman back there was so rude. You picked her up, carried her on your back, and she didn’t even thank you.” To which the older monk replied, “I set the woman down hours ago. Why are you still carrying her?”

I loved this illustration.

You get to choose what goes on up in your noggin.  You have control over what goes on in your brain.  I’m not saying don’t have feelings.  Everybody has feelings.  But then, it’s your choice to let it pass.

And you can be PROACTIVE about joy.  Seek it out!  Make it a practice!  There was a guy I kind of dug in college who put it best, “Wake up laughing.  It sets the tone for your whole day.”

What if we did that?  What if we woke up laughing?  What if we CHOSE JOY.  Every day.

We’d be happier.  We’d be healthier.  Inside and outside.

Today – choose joy.  Choose to not let the circumstances of life push you off of that lovely center.  Stay in it.   Have a joy-filled day.

Peace.  Love.  Joy.

Sarah

 

 


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The Happiness Project

“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.”
—-Dalai Lama

Happiness. There was a great article in one of my continuing ed journals about how Happiness isn’t something that just happens…you have to HELP make it happen. You have to till the garden, fertilize the soil, water the happy plants. Here were some of their thoughts on happy garden work and what research has shown what happy people do: – devote a great amount of time to nurturing and enjoying relationships. – are comfortable expressing gratitude to others. – are optimistic about their futures. – savor life’s pleasures and try to live in the present moment. – make physical exercise a weekly and daily habit. – are committed to lifelong goals and ambitions. – have stresses and even tragedies, but are able to cope in the face of challenges. Happiness is a practice. Grab hold of it and tend your garden:)

Here are 12 researched strategies for sustainable happiness courtesy of “The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want” by Sonja Lyubomirsky:

1. Count your blessings. Express gratitude for what you have.
2. Cultivate optimism. Keep a journal and write about the best possible future for yourself.
3. Avoid overthinking and social comparison. Minimize dwelling on problems and comparing yourself to others.
4. Practice acts of kindness for friends or strangers.
5. Develop nurturing relationships.
6. Do more activities that truly engage you – activities in which you “lose” yourself.
7. Replay and savor life’s joys.
8. Commit to your goals. Design them and pursue them.
9. Develop strategies for coping with stress, hardship or trauma.
10. Learn to forgive. Keep a journal or write a letter to let go of anger and resentment.
11. Practice religion and spirituality.
12. Take care of your body by engaging in phsycial activity, meditating, smiling and laughing.

Peace.Love.JOY. 🙂