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Mirror Work

Self-Care and Self-Love Idea:

Mirror Work. It’s super weird, but REALLY powerful work.

Grab a sticky note, write one of these phrases on it:

“I accept you unconditionally right now.”
“You’re a gift.”
“I love you.”

Stick it on your bathroom mirror.

Look yourself in the eye anytime you go to the bathroom, IN THE EYE, and say what’s on the sticky note. It might feel really strange at first and you might want to avoid this work – that’s really telling no?

Do it for 30 days.

No joke…this work here will change some stuff inside. Promise.

Trust.

You’re worth it. xo.


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Self-Care Month – “I don’t have TIME…”

The #1 answer I got back. “I don’t have time.” “Not enough time.” “Not enough time in the day.”

I’ve been dancing around this post for a couple of weeks now and I’m not sure why. I think because it rubs up against what I hear as a trainer/teacher again and again and again ever since I had big hair and taught aerobics, “I just don’t have time to exercise.”

The coach in me wants to respond with the tough line, “No. You don’t make time.”

Uff. That’s not really how I roll now. The yoga instructor in me wants to be more spacious.

Thus the battle. So here we go….

What I want to say to people who say they don’t have time for Self-Care is this, you’re not making space for yourself in your own life. You are allowing other things to take the line ahead of you. And I get it –sometimes life is like that. But it’s when this becomes the norm that things start to go awry. When you continually subjugate your needs again and again and forget that you even have a need…that is when you need to stop and take stock.

Because you’re operating from a negative balance – an empty well. You grabbing table scraps to make it through each day instead of coming from a place of being full (or at least partially full.) You’ve probably forgotten what it even feels like to come from that place.

What does this lead to? Well…something on the other end of the see saw of wellness. Stress. Anxiety. Depression. Overwhelm. Exhaustion. Self-Medicating. Hamster Wheels. Around and around and around and around.

The thing is this – Self-Love is the heart of it. It is the beginning and the end of it. The alpha and omega. Because when you love your beautiful self, you’re more apt to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. You’re more apt to:

Breathe

Calm

Move

Cook healthy food

Eat healthy food

Keep your center

Quiet

Fresh air

Drink a glass of water

Practice gratitude

Choose positivity

Not drink/eat too much

I can’t take the hard line because I’ve been on the hamster wheel. I get it. You won’t get any judgment from me – but you might get an irrational hug because I want to smooth your feathers. Step off now. And remember that Self-Care can be the simplest of things done in a just a moment of your time. Breathe now. Inhale. Exhale.

Peace.Love.Joy. Sarah


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Self Care Month – “I can’t afford it.”

It’s a funny thing money – it can make you feel so trapped and hemmed in. I wish I could wave a magic wand and help people change their money story and talk about how money is just energy, but that’s not today.

Today is “I can’t afford self-care.”

Here’s the exercise – Name 3 things that don’t cost a penny that you’re able to do for yourself today to allow for some self-care.

1.

2.

3.

I think we get stuck in the idea that caring for ourselves has to be a trip to the spa or getting our nails done. And those things are lovely, truly. But it’s the simple things – the simple day-to-day things that we give ourselves that really mean something.

It’s like a string of pearls and each time you are kind to yourself and give yourself a bit of love, your strand grows longer.

Self-Care is the fertilizer in the garden of Self LOVE. That is why it’s so important.

Stringing together small and tender things that you do for yourself shows Self Love.

Cup of tea. Bath. Fresh air. Smiling at yourself in the mirror (powerful one.) Reading a book. A luxurious stretch. Quiet. Dancing to your favorite song. Calling a friend. Hug yourself. 15 more minutes of sleep. Waking up a little early so you have the house to yourself. Lotioning. Glass of cool water. Neatening the mess. Ignoring the mess. Drawing. Writing.

Everybody’s idea of self-care is different. And it doesn’t have to cost a penny.

And self-care is more than exercise. It’s taking care of the whole of you – your body, mind and spirit.

Nurturing yourself in the small moments and in the simplest of ways is incredibly powerful. It forms a powerful inner/outer blanket of Love. And it is through that Self Love that you are able to love others, share your gifts, and serve the world.

Do the three things on your list today. Carve it out. Show yourself a little tender care. You’re so unbelievably worth it.

Namaste. Sarah


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Self Care Month – “I feel guilty when I do anything for myself.”

The question posed was this, “What are the top 3 things that stop you from giving yourself self-care?”

Of the hundred or so responses that you sent back, one of them was Guilt. And of all the responses, most of you? Mom Guilt. 

We’re going to address this one because it sits so close to home for me. I hear you. How can I take from my kids and family to do something for myself? It’s stealing time away from them, upsets them, and puts a burden on my partner.

Also, I might be seen as selfish.

Two things:

  • My therapist said something that was really powerful, ready? “Guilt is the only learned emotion.” Boom. We didn’t come into the world feeling guilt, we were taught it.
  • It’s really great for your kids and your partner to see that you care for yourself. That you are taking some time to yourself to give yourself pleasure and to fill your well back up. It’s great for your kids because your modeling taking sweet care of yourself and reminding them that mom is an important member of the family too. It’s great for your partner because it reminds them of that too AND it gives them some freedom to explore their own self-care.

So for the month of February, try this – write a list of things that bring you pleasure and fill your well back up (waxing doesn’t count…right?) Pick 3 and put them on your calendar. Invite your partner to do the same (it’s nice to be spacious and supportive of their needs too.) Ask for mutual support in attending to self-care appointments.

Then notice how you feel afterwards.

Notice that you’re a better mom, partner, friend, family-member, employee when your well is fuller. As such, you can release the guilt that surrounds self-care. It helps the whole family and is therefore good for the whole family.

Have a guilt-free month caring for your beautiful self.

Namaste, Sarah

 


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Ugh. Diet fads.

Today I was taking a look at this article about How Americans are Gluttons for Diet Fads and just got so frustrated. It makes my heart hurt that the diet industry is alive and kicking so well here in the United States.

I’m going to be the most unpopular person in America today, but I’m going to tell you the truth.

Ready?

There’s no quick fix.

There is NO.QUICK.FIX. people.

There is no shake, diet, drug, detox, or wrap that is going to get you thin healthfully.

There just isn’t. (Sidebar: Most people don’t give a crap about the healthfully part, they just want to be THIN.AT.ALL.COSTS.AND.AS.QUICKLY.AS.POSSIBLE.)

And when you feed into the machine of the DIET industry – it generally results in a repeat performance and then some. They’ve got you. You lost it, you gained it back, you want to lose it again and quickly.

It’s crazy making.

And it’s not good for your SOUL (because then you’re not loving the gift of YOU and you’re basing that self-disgust, hate, derision on the size of your damn pants.)

And it’s not good for your BODY (because you’re not giving it what it really needs.)

And it’s not good for your MIND (because then you obsess about it and it becomes all that you think about.)

Good food. Healthy amounts. Eat a rainbow. Move your body in a way that pleases you. Deep breaths. Get fresh air. Laugh. Love your amazing self. You may not end up being your dream size, but…you just might be AT PEACE and HEALTHY. Come on people.

Namaste, Sarah


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Issues in your Tissues

Do you think we hold things in our bodies? Physical trauma sure. What about emotional trauma? Do you think we kind of stick stuff away in little boxes?  In our minds, certainly. But what about in our bodies? Do you think we can have issues in our tissues?

Last month, I had my quarterly massage appointment with the amazing Stephanie. She does deep tissue work and also does energy work as she massages. As she was working on me, she ran her hands over the top part of my hips. All of a sudden, I burst out crying…and it wasn’t from pain. I was a little embarrassed and didn’t understand exactly what was happening. All I could think to myself was, “All my hopes and dreams were held in those two little areas….”

With her touch, Stephanie helped me to open a door that I’d locked – sealed – closed off…awhile ago.

The area she touched is the area my husband would put hormone shots twice daily for each round of in vitro fertilization that we went through. Five rounds. Three months each. Two shots a day.

I think I thought that because I had children…that it was time to tuck all of the feelings that go along with in vitro away and just be thankful that it worked.

And I am. I am SO grateful. There is no gratitude like the gratitude of a mother who receives the gift of a child by any means.

But also, tucked away in my body and unbeknownst to me were areas that I had not processed.

Pain. Sadness. Grief. Loss. Terror. Anger.

IVF taxed every aspect of me, us. Emotional, Spiritual, Physical, Psychological, Relational, and probably a dozen more that I just can’t think of right now.

But I tucked it away…and replaced it with JOY. And DELIGHT. And GRATITUDE. Because it worked and I had two beautiful babies!!

And now, I realize…I’ve got issues in my tissues. There’s stuff that I’d locked away that needs to be unpacked and felt. My husband asked, “How are you going to do that?” Well…I’m not really sure. But I think more body work with people I trust to hold me gently as I feel my way through this. When stuff bubbles up, I’ll let it come. I’m ready now to feel instead of stuffing it away. I’m giving myself permission to see the shadow side of this experience that we went through in addition to the gratitude.

It leads me to wonder about all the stuff we stick away in order to not feel. Does it result in dis-ease? Is part of wellness allowing for all of the feelings instead of denying them? I’m kind of thinking yes…

Peace, Sarah


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Loud & Crowded

Most people who know me well know that I don’t like crowds. I’m not sure exactly when it started, but somewhere along the way the noise and the number of people around me really started to affect me. I started avoiding places that were Loud and Crowded.

So to take the kids to Disneyland/world…I had to mentally and emotionally ‘charge up’ ahead of time and at each, we only spent a day. Same goes for waterparks. And the school Carnival. And the Mall of America. And…well – seemingly anywhere there are fun things for kids to do, I have to ‘charge-up,’ get ready, armor up.

After the events, I am super depleted and very quiet.

Are you like this?

During Yoga Teacher Training – my teacher Teri was talking about how almost her entire life she was painfully shy. She could have NEVER imagined standing in front of groups of people teaching..and yet, there she was (and so relaxed and teaching with such ease.) She didn’t let her shyness make her life smaller…she pushed against her edges. It took practice, but she was able to expand past her shyness.

I walked up to her after class and said, “So…could it be possible to keep my center and well of energy in say…A CROWD?” She said, “Sure.”

Huh. I walked away knowing I’d have to sit with that one for a bit. I always thought that Loud and Crowded drained ME. That THEY were the culprits. But what if I could stay on my center and not allow it? What if I could not let anything or anyone drain me?

Yesterday my husband and I got tickets to the Green Bay / Seattle game at Lambeau Stadium. This is his idea of HEAVEN. He thrives in crowds and with a lot of people.

So in the middle of it, it was so thick that I had to walk behind him – I was gripping his hand for dear life. People were all around me and the DIN was unbelievable. I found myself shallow breathing and really losing my center.

I shut my eyes…and I took a deep breath…and I willed myself back to my center…to my calm place…to the place where I hang out most regularly. And I kept doing it throughout the evening.

I’d like to tell you that it wasn’t exhausting…it was. But it was also FUN. I’d like to tell you that we didn’t spend almost the entire car ride today in silence…but we did. I’d like to say that I was full up and ready to go another round for something Loud and Crowded…but I’m not.

Here’s what I learned…I don’t want to spend my life avoiding Loud and Crowded. Because often FUN accompanies them. But what I may start practicing is being mindful during Loud and Crowded situations so that maybe I can keep more and more reserves of energy. Maybe then I can feel more FULL and less DEPLETED.

Practice, practice, practice.
Much peace,
Sarah