Let’s climb in the ‘way-back machine’ ok? A long time ago I was dating this guy…and, he was a really negative person. Really half-empty. Everything he saw was the world being out to get him. He was constantly the victim of the world, his employers, his circumstances.
I felt like it was my responsibility to fix everything and make his world better. But it wasn’t my job.
Circumstances and people cannot create your joy…YOU create your joy.
Because here’s the cold, hard truth and here is what I told him in the end.
Joy is a choice…choose joy.
We were inherently different people, but what I saw was a world full of loving and smiling people. What he saw was a scary world full of dumb, annoying people. What I saw were simple pleasures and I hung out in the place of gratitude. What he saw was that everyone/thing was out to get/bother/annoy him and doing anything was an uphill effort.
What was the difference between us?
How we look at the world.
The world is like a piece of broccoli (lesson from a great article called “Be the Broccoli” that I can’t find to attribute.) You can look at a piece of broccoli and think it looks delicious, nutritious, and wonderful. OR you can look at it and think it looks disgusting. In the end…the piece of broccoli itself doesn’t change. It’s still just a piece of broccoli. The difference is in your perception.
Joy is a choice. Ultimately, how you perceive the world is your choice.
And you can do some things that set the stage for more and more and more JOY. To cultivate joy. The more you practice these tools, the more you start fertilizing your garden with stuff that makes joy grow. For example – smile more, share your joyous moments with a trusted friend or family member, practice gratitude.