I dig 30 day challenges. I like exploring the delicate line between discipline and self-kindness. And believe me, walking that line can be a challenge.
To help, I use a life changing tool – It’s a book by Cheri Huber called, “Making a Change for Good – A Guide to Compassionate Self-Discipline.”
Essentially you take some area of your life that you want to explore (this month – I’m taking out alcohol and adding pushups) and you dig in through some journaling, meditation and doing your practice of adding something or taking something away.
What comes up? Those delicious voices in your head that you get to take a look at…for example:
“Why are you doing this? You’re a grown-up. Do what you want!” – The Enabler
“What is your problem? Why can’t you make even these small changes?” – The Judge
And what you see eventually is that…your voices are not YOU. They are not your highest self. They are not full of grace and love…they’re punishing and ultimately causing you suffering.
Then – the BEST PART? – you get to distance yourself from them. And that distance permeates into ALL OF YOUR LIFE. You miss a workout? The Judge jumps in, “Why are you so lazy?” and you can respond however you like…me: “Hey Judge – shut the hell up. I’ve got this – thanks.”
It’s a quick read and it’s a great practice. If you do it, let me know how it goes.
Much peace, S