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Joy is a Choice.

No really, Joy is a CHOICE.  How you look at things is up to you.  You can’t control the circumstances, but you sure can control how you react and feel about them.

When my kids were little, I’d envy the array of emotional storms that would pass over them within the course of an hour.  HAPPY, MAD, SAD, EXCITED, CONTENT…and on and on and on.  Like little thundershowers, the feelings would come and they would go.  To this day, they still don’t hold grudges, they don’t stay mad, they let the feelings come and then pass on through.

I heard a preacher once who said, “They’re just feelings – they come and they go.  Don’t get too locked down on them because then the feelings control you.”

It’s hard though isn’t it?  When someone hurts you, disappoints you, frustrates you, angers you…to just, feel the pain – and let it go.

Somewhere along the way, instead of letting the feelings pass through, we started allowing the feelings to linger and turn into resentment.

Hm.

Here’s what I think about the sticky icky resentment – it’s not a feeling.  It’s a choice.  And when you choose resentment, you’re holding on to the ick.  You’re allowing the feeling to stick and fester.  And that ick isn’t good for your health.

Conversely, you could feel it – and let it pass through.

There’s a great story in Jon Muth’s “Zen Shorts” about an old monk who was treated very rudely by a woman on the road.  The rest of the journey his travelmate stews about how awfully the old monk was treated.  When he brings it up at the end of the day, he expresses his outrage, “That woman back there was so rude. You picked her up, carried her on your back, and she didn’t even thank you.” To which the older monk replied, “I set the woman down hours ago. Why are you still carrying her?”

I loved this illustration.

You get to choose what goes on up in your noggin.  You have control over what goes on in your brain.  I’m not saying don’t have feelings.  Everybody has feelings.  But then, it’s your choice to let it pass.

And you can be PROACTIVE about joy.  Seek it out!  Make it a practice!  There was a guy I kind of dug in college who put it best, “Wake up laughing.  It sets the tone for your whole day.”

What if we did that?  What if we woke up laughing?  What if we CHOSE JOY.  Every day.

We’d be happier.  We’d be healthier.  Inside and outside.

Today – choose joy.  Choose to not let the circumstances of life push you off of that lovely center.  Stay in it.   Have a joy-filled day.

Peace.  Love.  Joy.

Sarah

 

 


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It’s all going south.

I like it when three completely different things present themselves to you as gifts from the Universe and they all illustrate the same thing in different ways.

First thing – A conversation with my neighbor Joan. We were talking about our parents getting older and how difficult that is for us to see. For each of us the takeaway was to MOVE AS MUCH AS WE CAN, WHILE WE CAN.

Second thing – I’m at the gym in the changing room and the beautiful women of the Water Aerobics are drying off and naked. And most of them are senior citizens. They are laughing and seemingly at home and content in their bodies. They are beautiful. They are fit. I admire them. I want to be like them when I grow up.

Third thing – a woman came to my class. Lovely, strong, full of life. She is living with Multiple Sclerosis. And when I asked the class to run down a hill, she wept. She wept because she used to be able to run down hills, and now she can’t. Now, with a determined look on her face, she concentrates on her balance and she walks down that hill. This woman was a runner, a mountain climber, a MOVER. She grieves the loss of ability in her body, and yet pushes herself to do her very best in what she CAN do.

We spend a lot of energy….wait, no, we WASTE a lot of energy disliking our bodies and wishing that they were different. So much energy wasted despising, wishing, working, coveting, loathing….

And here’s the deal people. It’s all going south. For each and every one of us eventually….it’s all going south. Eventually the skin sags around the muscle and things loosen up. Unless you are going to get a body lift (is there even such a thing?) it’s coming for all of us…

So when are we going to love ourselves? Love this shell that we’ve been given that holds our beautiful selves? Take care of it, move it, stretch it…but moreover – be grateful that we CAN do what we do.

If we take a wider view of our beautiful selves…not so myopic on our bellies, butts, jiggly arms, sagging jowels and zoomed out a bit. Maybe we could see how lovely we are as a whole. How nice it is to be right where we are…right here, right now.

Love the body you’re in. It’s part of wellness. Let go of the blaming, shaming, self-disgust, frustration. Embrace love, admiration, celebration and delight.

Please. And please stop letting marketing and sales geniuses define what beautiful is. It’s crap. Healthy? Yes. Eating well because it contributes to your wellness? Yes. Moving because it makes you feel good inside and out? Yes. But dieting yourself into submission because people say that’s what size you ‘should’ be? No. Working out obsessively because you want to look like xyz? No.

It’s all going south people.

Until then. Love your beautiful selves. Be grateful. Delight in yourself. Focus on health and wellness. Spread love around to others….and to yourself.

Peace,
Sarah